Couples-Relationship-
Marriage Therapy

Every couple faces some problems. Each couple’s story is unique of course, but if there is one thing you can count on, it is that along your journey together there will be both ups and downs. Even though at the most difficult of times you may not see how you can resolve the problem the two of you face, you can find a way.

Emotional intimacy is possibly the most important of my work with couples. Feeling distant or disconnected from each other is often the primary reason couples seek counseling. It may also be the underlying problem affecting your ability to communicate, or other issues that have come between you.   Improving intimacy and a sense of connection between you is almost always part of our work with couples.

Most of the couples that get in touch with me have been worried about their relationship for quite a while.  They have worked hard trying to improve things themselves, but they still feel it could be better.  Couples therapy is one more tool you could use to help your relationship.

Some of the issues that bring partners to couples counseling may be:

  • Improving communication skills

  • Improving conflict resolution skills

  • Working through a recent problem such as addiction or infidelity

  • Creating deeper intimacy, closeness, connection

  • Pre-marital counseling

  • Starting a new family-first baby, blended family, step-parenting

  • Infertility issues

  • Coping with a problem outside the relationship such as in-laws, or the death of someone close to you both

  • Betrayal

  • Infidelity

  • Financial Indiscretions

  • Lies/Secrets/Manipulation

Communication and conflict resolution skills are fundamental to a healthy relationship. It is possible to learn skills that will help you resolve the inevitable disagreements that come up throughout your life together. These skills are based on openness, trust, compassion, and respect. Regardless of the issue that brings you to counseling, discussing these concepts will be a part of our work together.

Partners that aren’t willing to go to couples therapy may decide this for one of these reasons:

  • They don’t feel they are the problem, that the partner that wants to go to therapy is the one that needs it;

  • they don’t believe counseling is helpful;

  • therapy might be uncomfortable, and they are worried about it.

Even if your partner won’t come with you, you can still work with a counselor yourself to gain insight and understanding about the problem  going on, and gain skills you can use to help the relationship be as good as it can be.

 

Even if you’re not sure about starting counseling as a couple or on your own, get in touch with me for a free 15-minute consultation. I am happy to talk with you about your concerns and the situation and help you find the best way to go forward.

What if My Partner Won’t Come to Therapy With Me?